Why Does Perimenopause and Menopause Make a Difference in Your Sex Life?

Why Does Perimenopause and Menopause Make a Difference in Your Sex Life?

Perimenopause and menopause signal a major shift in your life, one that brings incredible change, both physically and emotionally. While this phase is a natural part of aging, the changes that come with it often catch us by surprise—especially when it comes to our bodies and sex life. The biggest culprit? Estrogen. As we transition, our estrogen levels drop, and sometimes it feels like our body is no longer the one we once knew. And unfortunately, these changes don’t happen in a neat, predictable way.

As well as hormonal changes, we also experience many physical changes. Changes in our collagen levels and elasticity often translate into physical pain and issues with penetration. 

Along with hot flashes, sleepless nights, mood swings, and vaginal dryness, many women find their sexual health is also impacted. Contrary to what some may say, this isn't about simply "getting older" or "losing interest." The truth is, we need hormones to help us regulate vaginal moisture, libido, and even brain function. Without them, our bodies struggle to keep up with the pleasure we once experienced.

For many women, this can also mean painful sex, as the vagina and vulva lose elasticity. And let’s not forget our nerves—they too are changing. While the science is still emerging, studies show that vibrational frequencies (like those from vibrators) can actually help stimulate nerve endings and reignite pleasure.

So, what can you do to navigate this time of transition?

Menopause: A Journey, Not a Destination

Menopause is a complex life event, but it doesn’t have to be a lonely one. No single solution will completely erase the symptoms, but a well-rounded, personalized approach can make a world of difference. The first step? Finding a supportive healthcare team that listens, believes in you, and truly gets what you're going through. You deserve to have people in your corner, not those who just tell you to "suck it up."

There are tools that can help. Lubrication is a must—your new best friend, honestly. Don't underestimate its power. A water-based lube can be a game-changer, especially when paired with your favorite toys. When it comes to sex, make time for it. Your body may need more rest and more foreplay, but that doesn’t mean it’s any less meaningful. Foreplay plays a huge role in helping you reconnect with your body’s desires.

And don’t forget about toys. They can be more than just playful accessories—they’re part of your toolkit to rediscover pleasure. Studies show that vibrations can enhance blood flow and help relax muscles, making them essential in keeping both your mind and body engaged.

Why Elixir Play?

At Elixir Play, we understand the changes you’re facing—and we’re here to support you every step of the way. Sex is meant to be joyful, playful, and intimate, no matter what age you are. Don’t let menopause steal that from you.

Our products are crafted with soft, flexible materials that are kind to your body. The last thing you need during this time of transition is a harsh, rigid toy that could cause discomfort or damage. When choosing products, be gentle with yourself. If it’s not an Elixir Play product, make sure it’s made with safe, body-friendly materials.

Using pleasure products, especially externally to begin with can help increase blood flow in the area and relax your muscles. Think of the times when you may have had a sore neck or shoulders, you often go for a massage to help! Well, the same is true all over our body. This is why using a pleasure product (personal massager) can really help!

We believe that pleasure doesn’t have to stop just because your body changes. Let us be your partner in this journey of rediscovery. Reach out if you need guidance, or just someone to talk to. We’re here to help you find your way back to the joy, the play, and the pleasure you deserve.